Mediation

Mediation

Dispute and Conflict Mediation

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“Just make it go away!”

The Jessica Person approach to disputes and conflicts in the TV-series Suits.

Why dispute and conflict mediation?

Because for most of us, resolving our disputes and conflicts and instead focus our efforts on our career/business/living with a peace of mind, is the best investment.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could just end disputes that are sucking us dry of energy, time and money, and just make them go away? 

For this to happen both parties must feel they get a fair deal and at least be ok with the solution, in order to let go and move forward.

Mediation is about understanding the root of the problem, the needs and the intended future of both parties, in order to offer a solution that makes them both win.

I’m hired for both business and divorce-mediations.

My 6-step mediation process.

1.

Reclaim your leadership. 

When we surrender our leadership in the conflict to lawyers, we no longer have full control of the process. Why? With most lawyers being great at the legal aspects, most seem to lack empathy and the ability to build trust. Empathy and trust is needed to reach beyond the emotionality in both parties, to land a real win-win solution. If you choose mediation, still keep your lawyer for the legal aspects.

2.

Find the core of the drama.

Exactly what event triggered the emotional drama and power struggle in the first place? Many times drama is based on a misunderstanding caused by differences in culture, personal beliefs or perception. This can easily turn a relationship into a tug of war. By finding the core of the drama, it’s possible to build a bridge of trust again, enough to acknowledge the case facts and later land a win-win deal.
Many people still see power struggles as a sign of strength, but wouldn’t you rather make the case go away and instead focus on what you do best? 

3.

Make a risk assessment. 

Define all the disadvantages and risks for both parties. Both primary and secondary risks like: Loss of momentum, loosing other deals, loss of reputation, time, money and energy – in a divorce losing connection with the children etc.

4.

Bridge peoples differences. 

Can both sides save face and get what they want? Knowing that emotional reactions are a response to feeling hurt or threatened, understanding peoples real needs can lead to finding working solutions. We need to go beyond the emotional drama in order to deal with the facts and finding a common ground.

5.

Find the common ground.

What do each party REALLY want, beyond the emotional drama? Finding a common ground can be that they want the same thing or that they both can benefit from a common decision. Here lies the potential to go from simple damage control to building new future value for both.

6.

Propose a win-win solution.

Propose a SIMPLE win-win solution with a dead line, that makes the conflict go away for both parties.
See to it that the solution takes care of both the primary and secondary risks, so nothing comes back and bites anyone later.

Mediation vs. litigation?

Mediation:

Takes place outside of court and takes into account not only the legal rights but also the secondary risks, special needs and both parties future, not often addressed in court. 

Is to be performed by a neutral third party that is able to define the true conflict behind the emotional drama, and from there present and land a win-win deal.

Mediation is a Private – Confidential – Informal – Solution oriented process.

International mediations are welcome depending on the date and size of the engagement.
For inquiries, please get in touch and let’s talk.
References are given upon request.

About Stefan

  • INTERNATIONAL SPEAKER, COACH AND BEST SELLING AUTHOR. 
  • BELIEVER IN CONNECTION, CO-CREATION AND CREATIVITY.
  • BEST SELLING AUTHOR WITH FUN AS A BUSINESS IDEA – #1 THREE YEARS IN A ROW IN THE SWEDISH BUSINESS BOOKCLUB.
  • PIONEERING THE INCORPORATION OF MEDITATION AND SELF-AWARENESS IN LEADERSHIP AND COACHING TRAININGS.
  • PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION: FROM OUTSIDER TRYING TO FIT IN, TO CATALYST OF CONNECTION, WE-ZONING AND CO-CREATION.
  • DRAWING FROM EXPERIENCE OF FACILITATION 6-WEEKS TO 12-MONTHS DEVELOPMENT PROGRAMS WITH 1000+ MANAGERS AND LEADERS.
  • AT VOLVO, ERICSSON, SCANDINAVIAN AIRLINES, THE SWEDISH ARMED FORCES AND OTHERS.
  • NOW RESIDING IN SOUTH EAST ASIA.

My inner theme is connection. That means I believe in the power of alignment, We, unity and co-creation. For 27 years I have been learning, writing, teaching and speaking about connection in various forms, now calling it creating a We. 

Since a majority of people live in a lack of authentic connection and love, I am passionate to help as many people as possible activating their WeZone. 
What is possible when we can unite at Work, in Business and in Love?

‘After working with team-building most of my career, with Stefan I have now experienced an even faster way to reach the WE together.

Hans Hadding
Former Manager of Leadership Trainings
Swedish Armed Forces

‘Already in the first session I saw my possible future. By un-cluttering my business, focusing my offer and by building real relationships with my ideal clients, it actually solved most of my perceived problems in one go.’

Ida Ayu Suci Levi
Designer
Jakarta, Indonesia

‘I find this approach approach fun, fresh and straight on.
Stefan presents connection in a very simple and usable way.
I recommend this work to anybody serious about their work as well as having a truly juicy and loving relationship in their lifetime.’

Gabriela Castillo 
Spiritual teacher & Healer to the stars
Miami, USA